Breaking news!! Really?

About a week ago I got a phone call and the conversation was based around my past. Unintentionally, my aunt overheard the conversation and immediately I came off the phone there arose the question. When did all that happen? It was like a breaking news, or was it really?

I will release your eagerness of letting you know what happened in my past life. It was full of a lot of things, some which many may agree a child should never face. But the reality is that it does happen, and often when noticed, it's too late. Some may even say its the parents fault, but for someone like me who never grew up with a mum by my side or my father actually building a relationship with me, my life was already destined for failure. Don't get me wrong, I got everything I wanted from my dad materialistically, but that love, guidance and security I hoped for was never fulfilled.

From growing up as a child in Sierra Leone to coming to England, there was always huge gaps in my life that no one could fill up, not even myself could piece together why I had to go through such things. Getting pregnant, abuse, hurt, neglect, and many other things were amongst some of the issues I faced as a child/teenager. And to be honest it's not an easy thing to share with you, but because I've now overcome all that, opening up to such things is now a privilege for me and I hope that you can somehow learn something from this.

Like my Aunty, many parents are unaware of the problems their child/children face and till this day my parents do not have a clue of the abuse I went through in my own house. I was very young and I didn't really have much idea on what was happening and to be sincere, I thought it was all ok and for that reason never really opened up to anyone. My point here is not to blab on about what happened to me but how this later affected me in life as I then resulted to finding 'love' in guys older than me who only took advantage of my body. And so I ended up getting pregnant twice at age 15 and 16.

So why is it that my Aunty found it strange, I mean a lot of girls go through this right? Well I guess it's not much of a breaking news then is it? What I'm trying to say is if all of these things is not new to society why does it still keep happening? There are a lot of unanswered questions but if you are going through any of this, speak, open up and share with someone who can help you. I eventually opened up because I couldn't keep so much hurt inside of me anymore. And for you parents, be that best friend your child can always confide in, be there to have an appropriate relationship with them and if you do want to talk to someone you can call this number 02076866000 and there'll be someone there to help you as best as they could.